What Are We Thinking?

I was talking to a friend and he shared a story with me that causes so many thoughts and emotions that I thought I would share it here and see what everyone else thinks.

Three years ago he discovered that his wife had cheated on him, with someone he knew. Now I am not a close personal friend of his wife so I don't know what was going on there, but I was around him at the time and he talked about it and it devastated him.

Apparently he talked about that with other people we knew and a friendship with another woman that we both knew bloomed.

According to him this friendship became an affair and lasted for several years. Behind his wife and her husband's backs. Well somehow his wife discovered what was going on and as you can imagine it caused a lot of problems for them. So they split up, in the meantime she has told her husband that this guy is stalking her, I can only assume to cover in case he hears something.

So my friend thinks he is in love with this woman, he is separated from his wife and his children are mad at him.


He tells her he wants to be with her and try to build a relationship, I don't know why at this point but whatever, She tells him she is seeing someone else. What? There is now a third man in the mix and she wants to have my friend on the side like they have done for the past three years because it has been great. Huh? He said it hasn't been great for him he has been miserable. She tells him that he's weak. Fast forward a couple of weeks.

Two marriages and now another relationship, they aren't even together. He is miserable doesn't have his wife or his girlfriend. I have not discussed this with her. I don't know her side, I can't imagine that she is any happier with the outcome. So what was the past three years?

I am in no way judging either of them I have been in situations where I did not make great decisions. I have also been in situations where the decisions I made should have been made sooner. So no judgement just observation from some one guilty of the same human flaws. I just want to ask why do we pile so much emotional baggage on to ourselves what are we thinking?

Wednesday's Random Thoughts

• We worked out this morning. We started going to Fitness 4 Life last Monday. I really like it. I feel improvement every day this morning I was to 99% of the targeted pace. Woo-hoo.
• Went to the dentist yesterday for a cleaning and a small filling. It has been so long since I had a filling I started freaking out just a little like I didn't remember what to expect. Deep breathes, calming thoughts. Oh yeah that's all there is, no big deal. Why did I start stressing?
• Today I am going to the eye doctor. Now that I am old I can't see anything. It really is sad and strange how it happens seemingly overnight once you hit 40.
• Tomorrow to the doctor for follow-up on blood work and then Friday the chiropractor. Ugh.
• I am trying to get everything in before Exxon takes over XTO because we aren't sure what the changes to the insurance are going to be.
• I told my husband yesterday what a great husband he was and his response reinforced how wonderful he truly is, he said it is easy to be wonderful to you. Aww. Is that not the best compliment?
• Another earthquake in Haiti. I am speechless.
• The guys are playing golf today, hopefully the rain holds off until they are done.

Haiti and how it effects me.

I have been, like most people, watching the news about the devastation in Haiti. Although I don't have family, friends or ties to Haiti I have been especially effected by the stories of the elderly.
I know that this stems from my Mom. I have that desire like a childless woman desires to have a baby. I am an orphaned child who desires that relationship, maybe with someone who has no one.
I read an article about a group of elderly people who survived the collapse of the nursing home where they lived only to lay outside and die with no food and water. No diaper changes since the earthquake and the rats coming after them. Younger people stealing what they do have while they lie there unable to stop them.
Then this morning I listened as it was reported that orphans will be brought to the United States for care. I started crying. Everyone wants to take care of babies. Which is a good thing but I need an older person to take care of.
Now there is not a lot I can do in Haiti but there are nursing homes and neighborhoods with older people in my community that don't have anyone to visit them, send a card, bring some flowers etc. So I decided this morning to write and encourage everyone to do what you can for Haiti and then maybe doing something in your community too. I am going to send a letter to the Committee on Aging and some of the Nursing homes in my area and see if they can match me with someone who maybe needs me as much as I need them.
I am doing this in honor of my mother Oleta Hollis who would be turning 82 on February 4, 2010.

What a difference a day makes.

First picture is after she woke up from her nap at daycare. They called her Mom and said I think she has pink eye. So Casey took her to the clinic Friday night. Fast forward to Saturday morning in the next picture. Poor baby.

After leaving the clinic with her Friday night, I went home and my grandson started throwing up his toenails. The grand babies are dropping like flies.

The weather was nice yesterday we went riding on the bike. It was a little cool first thing but it warmed up nicely.

We started working out last week, we are going to 4 Minute Fitness, three times a week. So far it's pretty good it doesn't take long but you can really feel the results.

I want to go see The Book of Eli. Hopefully I can do that soon.

We are scheduled for a final hearing on the kids the first week of February. Don't get too excited they have postponed it about a zillion times.

I have been going through their medical/dental out of pocket expenses to get ready for the hearing, these kids are expensive and they are healthy. I can't even imagine what people with children that need continuous care must spend.

I read about the elderly people in Haiti who survived the collapse of the nursing home and now they are dying outside of the rubble due to lack of water and food. I want to bring them home with me. The elderly are my weakness, I guess because of my Mom. I was in tears at the end of the article. I hope the help gets there soon. I wish I could do more.

I watched Julie and Julia Friday night, what a good movie. I have to be honest it was better than I expected.

We went to see Avatar, I am now on a mission to get everyone to see that movie, that was the best movie I have seen in years.

I still haven't seen Blindside ugh, I know what am I waiting on? I really want to see this one too. There seems to be to many good movies right now. Most of the time there aren't enough.

Bon Jovi is coming to Dallas y'all. I really need to attend this concert. I went to their concert once before and let me tell you I was pretty impressed.

The Princess

Look at this in her very own big girl bed. I went yesterday and ordered her nap mat for school, she is out of the baby room and in with the big kids. She is growing up so fast.

Catching Up

• Christmas was wonderful. Spent a lot of time with the kids and grand kids.


• Got to see my brother and sister-in-law.


• Went to the movies all of the kids and grand kids, we saw the new Alvin and the Chipmunks. It was cute


• New Years Eve was awesome. Went to the Stars game. They won and it was a really good game then to the celebration Big D NYE loads of good music. I was able to invite a friend I haven't seen in awhile that was a lot of fun.


• New Years Day we went to the movies and saw Sherlock Holmes. That was good. Didn't expect it to be so long though.


• Stayed home yesterday because they closed the schools due to ice. It was all clear in just a few hours. Ugh. I could have went to work.